I am afraid to admit it – I worry… a little too much. Yes that’s right despite my care-free façade, and relaxed temperament, I tend to let my thoughts wonder and drift to things that do not need to be given the time of day. I tell myself, “If I can do something about it then do that; but if you can’t then what’s the point in worrying?” However, regardless of these words of wisdom, I still get that feeling inside and have been known to lose a couple of nights sleep once or twice. So, what’s the remedy?
Different people have different ways of unburdening their minds. Personally I like to stay busy and channel the extra energy into doing something, from working-out to working hard. Websites, herbal remedies, medication, and even alcohol can offer a way of relaxing… but for how long and at what cost? The universal truth is talking to someone, hearing their opinion, and not feeling judged as they offer a sympathetic (or even empathetic) ear to your concerns, can really help. I know I feel better after talking it through.
There is this belief that men go into their cave and try to solve their problems while women tend to busy themselves with more problems or the problems of others to make that particular worry seem less significant. However, I believe that in the right environment, supported and understanding, anyone can feel better. Sounding your thoughts with others does not necessarily follow the saying “a problem shared is a problem halved”, but rather offers relief and perhaps insight at a difficult time. It’s rather like viewing a painting you have created with fresh eyes after leaving it alone for a brief spell, or even re-reading a piece of text you have written after a brief intermission.
Month after month, working at Community Network I see our service users go through individual highs and lows, from everything between hospital appointments and falls, to birthdays and celebrations. The experiences these situations offer, positive or negative, are often shared in our telephone groups (if the person chooses to share them). They are greeted with kind voices and listening ears, and individuals often find that someone else has felt the same way or had a similar experience.
It just goes to show, no matter the worry, problem or concern, you are never alone.
Chris Robertson, Social Inclusion Manager